All you have to do is think about Mother’s Day and your lifetime of Mother’s Day experiences instantly tell you the whole story of what to expect.
Would you like this year to be different?
Let me explain… Within your mind is a list. A very powerful list that rates all events on a scale from good to bad. Try this and you’ll see what I mean.
Think of two things you could do next week, one good and one bad. Perhaps: sitting outside in the sunshine reading a book, and going to the dentist. Can you feel them?
Stop for a moment and think about each event. Watch and feel your mind and body react. The dentist vision may cause you to literally shake, while the sunshine visualization relaxes you. One simple thought has created such strong mental and physical reactions within you, purely because of this rating list.
If you did go to the dentist or sit outside and read a book next week, both would match your rating list expectations as you don’t need to feel or experience anything else during the actual event. Your mind has already pre-determined what it would be like in its entirety and the judgment of good or bad has already been made.
The rating list stops your ability to experience the ‘now’ moments and is actually why you run on automatic without thought or feeling most of the time.
Rating Mother’s Day
You have a Mother’s Day rating list too, which is based on your past holiday experiences, and the beliefs you formed from their experience. Whenever you think about Mother’s Day, you will hear the internal expectations of your rating list so you know ahead of time what will happen. And it usually does.
The expectations and judgment of your rating list also dictate your expectations, perceptions and mood on Mother’s Day.
So, are you ready to have a brand new experience of Mother’s Day?
If you have already worked through the chapters of Heal Your Self – A Journey to Find You, go back to the chapter on Feeling which has the full exercise to refresh this topic. If you haven’t started the workbook yet, you can still try part of it especially for Mother’s Day.
Think about an activity you do during the lead up to Mother’s Day, listen to your rating list self talk, and then make a decision. Do you wish to have this same experience or would you like to just see what happens?
Say your activity is planning the menu, which you normally don’t enjoy. This year, on the day you are going to plan the menu, let your rating list self talk come up then deliberately tell it to silence. Thank it for warning you then decide to ignore it.
Let yourself actually experience planning a menu as if it is the first time you have ever done so. Watch and notice how much fun it is to watch a list of delicious food come together, let yourself feel the excitement of your family’s cheers as you turn serve the meal, which looks and smells delectable. Experience this event fully.
Now, make the decision and time to do the same with other Mother’s Day events by making a list of your Mother’s Day expectations, then reminding yourself to stop your rating list during them.
The interesting thing is that once you decide to scrap your rating list, events will be exciting and new, and a whole lot of fun. And not as your rating list told you to expect.
You can practice this right up to Mother’s Day, increasing your proficiency so you can make Mother’s Day the best you have ever had. You will be open to see the smiles and feel the love that surrounds you without the restrictions your rating list creates.
The Heal Your Self – A Journey to Find You workbook will show you how to eliminate your rating list for all events.